But why does criticism hurt in the first place? Part of the reason is fear that the criticism may be warranted--that you are indeed too fat, too slow, too loud, or whatever barb has been lobbed in your direction. The other factor may be low self-esteem. If you don't feel so good about yourself, you're more apt to take criticism to heart. On the other hand, if you feel fairly self-assured, the negative remarks of others are more likely to bounce off.

Still, a fair amount of criticism may be valid--and just what you need to correct a fault. In order to decide just how much attention a critical remark warrants--or what you should make of it--ask yourself:

Does the criticism seem reasonable? Is there some truth to what was said? (Perhaps you
should pay attention to the remark.)
Have I been criticized by other people on the same issue? (If so, maybe it warrants attention.)
Does the person making the critical remark know what he or she is talking about? (If he or she
is a self-appointed critic-at-large, ignore the remark.)
Was the remark really directed at me, or was the critic venting general frustration, anger, or
bitterness at something over which I have no control? (If criticism stems from general
dissatisfaction, let it slide.)
Is the criticism based on a difference of opinion? (If so, don't overreact.)

If you decide that the criticism is valid, you can consider taking positive steps to improve. If it's unwarranted, forget it.