1. Make your love relationships a high priority in your life.
2. Work on yourself. Grow and evolve to be able to give and receive energy
and love. These things are learned. If you do not have the psychological
tools for this, it’s worth the investment for counseling and classes.
3. Communicate your feelings clearly. If you disagree, learn how to ‘fair
fight.’ Listen and respond rather than react. Explore your feelings and then
4. Do not say things out of anger (attempting to hurt your loved one
emotionally) when you feel vulnerable or victimized. That can continue the
hurtful feelings and cause a separation. Aren't we always looking for
healing and unity? "Un-tie is not the same as Unite." Argisle
5. Appreciate the little things and pay special attention to the important
issues. Be respectful and acknowledge/commend each other. Dreaming together
is part of love and staying aligned. Do you share a complementary path with
6. Nurture one another. Enjoy flowers, laughter, beauty, massage, and good
food. Take care of your health, for you and your loved ones.
7. Shift roles occasionally so that you can experience your partner’s life.
Be open to change patterns. Both men and women can work and still care for
family and children, or they can be primarily at home yet find ways to
create and interact in the world.
8. Create family support and extended family, especially if you have
children. Otherwise, life as parents can be quite challenging and stressful
on personal relationships. Find time in the relationship for special
9. Keep the magic alive. Surprise one another. Avoid feeling "whelmed" in
your world so you’re unable to tune into others. Be present in the precious
gift of life.
10. Maintain an emotional and spiritual connection as well as mental and
physical ones. The more we share with one another, the deeper the love
10 Steps For Restoring Relationship Satisfaction
1. Connect with the Spring and your life force. Feel the new and fresh
energy from the winds and rains; it’s so cleansing and presents an
opportunity to begin again. Take a deep breath and an inner look at where
you are and feel what you no longer need in your personal life--what no
longer serves who you want to be. This is the season to plan your new year,
for the new YOU. Evaluate your RELATIONSHIPS. Love and enthusiasm are key
words for Spring, as are new beginnings. We are naturally creative beings,
and this applies to our minds and attitudes, as well as our relationships.
Do we need a relationship to not be starved for touch and connection, often
confusing us into believing we are "in love" with another just to meet our
basic human needs. There are other ways to find the nurturing and love that
we all need—from self, animals, friends, family, massage, and Nature
2. Commit to YOUR LIFE, your relationships, and your home. It takes work and
play to keep a meaningful relationship successful. Be aware of your cycles
and biorhythms. This is a fascinating endeavor. How do you flow and grow
together? This takes care and presence with each other. Try this brief
questionnaire about relating: Does your mate smell good to you, or feel
right? Does he/she bring forth feelings of happiness in you, or what? Are
you aware of personal changes with the light, the moon, and the seasons? Is
a pet your favorite relationship? Of what about food; is it your best
friend? Has an appliance become your main squeeze? Is your closest family on
the tellie, or can you truly connect with live people? What is your ideal
relationship; three qualities pleeze? Mine are respect, nurturing, and a