Viewing your relationship with the person who abused you throughout various
lifetimes may offer a unique perspective and speed up your healing process. The
more you can understand the spiritual significance of your suffering and how it
fits into your overall life purpose, the more deeply you can heal. 4) I have
found constitutional homeopathic treatment to be immensely helpful to remove
the layer of grief and shame caused by the abuse as well as any physical
symptoms you may be experiencing. Homeopathy can balance you on an energy level
from the inside out so that you are empowered to heal much faster and can
shorten the length of psychotherapy considerably. 5) I believe that forgiveness
is the ultimate step in the healing process. This may take a long time, and may
need to happen again and again. First, forgive yourself. Have the same
compassion for yourself as you would for someone else in the same position.
Release any blame and see yourself deserving of healing, fully and completely.
It is very understandable that you may not now be in any space to forgive the
person who has abused you...but you may be at a later time. In my counseling
and hypnosis work, I guide the woman to tell her abuser, face to face, what she
wishes she could have said at the time. It is as easy to call forth an
individual who has died as one who is still alive. In the end it is important
to realize that none of us really wants to create suffering for another. It is
illness, perversion, and lack of love that allows one to abuse another. The
abuser needs just as much compassion as you do. 6) Do whatever you need to free
you current and future intimate relationships from the influence of the past
abuse. Share openly with your sexual partner your past experiences and
feelings. Allow this relationship to be different from any negative experiences
of the past. Give yourself permission to attract to you the wonderful
relationship which you fully deserve.
Drs. Judyth Reichenberg-Ullman is a naturopathic and homeopathic physicians
and cofounders of the Northwest Center for Homeopathic Medicine in Edmonds, WA.
She is coauthor of The Patient's Guide to Homeopathic Medicine and
Beyond Ritalin: Homeopathic Treatment of ADD and Other Behavioral and
Learning Problems. She can be reached at (206) 774-5599.
© 1996 Judyth Reichenberg-Ullman, N.D., M.S.W. and Robert Ullman, N.D.